Over the past month, I have just felt different and not like myself. While this has mostly been a good thing, it has put me in moods where I’m super deep in thought and just reminiscing and reflecting on life. I’ve come to realize over the past couple years and especially over the past couple months that there are several uncomfy signs that you are becoming a better you.
You literally feel uncomfortable.
This is kind of a surefire sign you are going through a period of change if you uncomfy emotionally, physically, and/or mentally. Staying the same feels the same, it feels comfortable, safe, easy… Read any self-help book and they will tell you the challenge is to get comfortable with the uncomfortable.
You realize things about yourself that you never saw before.
Somehow someway through journaling, meditation, or whatever happened the revelations are appearing uninvited. Things you never understood before you can’t believe you didn’t understand before. It’s like school, you learn a concept and you don’t know how you didn’t understand before. Changing for the better isn’t ever simple or easy and it doesn’t usually feel all that great.
You feel the need to stop surrounding yourself with certain people.
This can be really difficult to stop hanging around people that you have grown used to and comfortable around. You might have even outgrown them before you even realized and don’t want to be honest with yourself because it is uncomfortable. It can be tough to end friendships because we naturally look for connections with people. No one wants to hurt others but it is necessary to stop hurting yourself and become the person you deserve to allow yourself to become.
You are gradually shifting your entire perspective on life.
This could happen in a matter of minutes or it could take years. Either way, it is needed to become a better version of yourself. You may be excited about it or you might be nervous, but either way, it will be a good thing in the long run.
You have a tough time with those who don’t understand your change.
It’s inevitable that some of the people close to you will struggle to understand how much you’ve changed. Those who care about you and want to see you succeed will adapt as you adapt. Unfortunately, sometimes when a person begins true growth, others get fearful and even jealous (this is sad but very real). This change, especially when significant, could inspire resentment or even anger in friends and family. You will have to be strong enough to understand and detach as needed.
You realize the easy path is almost never the best path.
Going against the flow is never easy but what comes easy isn’t worth it compared to what we have to fight for. You know what you want and you know what is best for you, go after it. At this time in your life, you are probably realizing that life is about the journey, not the destination.
Thanks for reading and have a great day!