Heads up, this one is gong to be a little more raw and vulnerable than you are used to hearing from me.
This has been a topic weighing on my mind for about a year now. Why does it matter how old or young you are when you get married. People that are in their 70’s get married and it’s called cute, sweet, and romantic. When a couple just out of their teens and are into their early twenties want to get married it’s described as dumb, a mistake, or even a joke.
There are 30-years-olds that are less mature than some 20-year-olds. I’m not saying every 18 or 20-something is ready for marriage at that age, but there are certainly some out there. Some people were just born more mature or had to mature faster than the rest. Why is it wrong for a couple of mature young twenty-year-olds to get married?
If they have their life together enough that they can support themselves then what is wrong with it? If this couple can pay for their own wedding should they choose to have one, can pay for their own place, and can pay for them to live essentially, I see nothing wrong with it.
My best friend just got engaged and she just turned 21. She will be getting married a day before her 22nd birthday. She currently is in college getting her degree, a lot of it is paid for by scholarship, and she works on top of that. Her fiancé and soon to be husband graduated early and so he now has a “big boy” job where he is making enough to support them both. I’ve had people tell me that they are making a mistake, but they have known each other since the 2nd grade and have dated officially for over 4 years. Her fiancé has changed so much since the second grade and even in the 4 years they were dating, but that’s just it. We will continuously grow and change throughout our lives and when you marry a person you are committing to growing together. The only thing different between a 22-year-old getting married and a 26-year-old getting married is numbers. Whether those numbers be age, how many anniversaries they will share, the amount of money in their bank accounts, or how many previous relationships it took to find the right one.
Someone, everyone, please give me your thoughts on the topic, I just want to know.
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